Confidence: How To Build Confidence And Destroy Fear

Build Your Confidence

Confidence is something we all lack from time to time, or perhaps it is something you lack all of the time? Almost 50% of women believe they would be further in their career if they had more self belief. Zero confidence stops you making decisions, keeps you stuck in a rut and allows you to exist in fear.

If your personal confidence is based on your knowledge, there is a danger you will say too much, rather than listen. We can all think of that person in the office who we try to avoid. The show off character who knows something about everything. The problem with the world, is that the intelligent people are full of doubt, while stupid people are full of confidence. When you know you are great, you have no need to hate or boast!

Time to move forward with more confidence destroying fear? A structure will not collapse when its foundation is solid. Nothing great can be done without hope or confidence. True confidence leaves no room for jealousy, it is humble and not arrogant. An attractive, healthy reassuring confidence, makes you feel safe and secure, not just in who you are, but also in what you do.

Change shyness to real strength. 
Don't be mistaken fear can be a great motivator and we are designed to experience fear as a warning signal to danger. In nature the emphasis is on what is, rather than what ought to be. But fear should not consume your thoughts day and night. Over thinking can intensify emotional pain, which is responsible for insomnia, migraines, lack of creativity and lack of confidence.

If you are feeding yourself with failure and lack, your thought process is governed by fear, and fear is the biggest confidence killer. Seek out strength, stepping out of the darkness of fear, into the light of confidence. This is the attitude we must take towards building self confidence, light that instantly swallows up darkness. If you don't believe me, see what happens when you turn on the light in a dark room.

5 Fast Confidence Building Tips

1) Don't compare yourself to others. Stop focusing on what other people are doing. Comparing yourself to others comes from a poverty mindset, which is governed by fear. Approval from others is not needed to succeed. You were created uniquely to be exactly who you are supposed to be.

2) Look for a new perspective shifting your paradigms. If you do the same things you will get the same results! Obvious! Of course! This is not enough to stop you repeating the same destructive behaviour patterns over again. However if you start to examine your thoughts you can change your perspective.

3) Lead from the back, let others think they are in front. If you are truly confident you don't need to be centre stage. That will only satisfy your ego temporarily and does nothing for your confidence. Let other people have the limelight. Focus on the outcome, getting results will build your self confidence.

4) Smile and take it easy. Even if everything is falling apart and you feel like crap. Walk with your head up and your shoulders back, in the confidence that only god can give you. Trust God will open a door that you can walk through with courage and confidence. When you stop relying on your own strength and wisdom to get things done you will start to see results you never imagined possible.

5) You can only fix yourself. Wasting your valuable energy trying to control others will only wreck your confidence. To avoid catching a bad mood don't try to fix others.

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