"FEAR" is perceived as one of the most powerful negative emotions, but in fact is a very important and survival based emotion - if understood deeply. Fear seems to be/ and is taught as one of the biggest barrier towards 'Peak Performance'.
It is very important for one to understand the origin of FEAR. As in my workshop I say "Everything that one does is to get pleasure or to avoid pain. In short we are governed by these two primary forces - desire to get pleasure and the need to avoid pain". 'Avoiding pain' however is a much stronger force than the desire to experience pleasure as it's a 'survival' force - it's the primitive embedded reaction of fight or flight to avoid pain.
We have so many cases of people hurting others in a 'self-defense' mode once they perceive a threatening situation which could give them pain - the brain does everything to avoid pain even if it means to hurt the other person.
Now, if you have understood this basic nature, it's time to mull over the emotion - FEAR. People say FEAR is imaginary, I would say 'it's real' as an individual is facing it and experiencing it at that time. But the question is - why is the mind imagining it? If I make a statement - "FEAR is an emotion that surfaces up, if the mind anticipates PAIN" would you agree? Think about it. Only if the mind anticipates Pain it gives FEAR - warning you and probably not allowing you to initiate something that would have caused pain in the past!!!! E.g. Let's say, you got burnt with Fire when you were a kid (past), your friends ask you to play with candle flame now, the mind related to the PAST and anticipates (future) injury!!! So, the FEAR is in the 'NOW' but is using the past and anticipating the FUTURE to distort the PRESENT moment. However complicated this might seem now, it important to understand this. Some FEARS are necessary and good - like example of Fire, you bet you don't want to work on this FEAR to play with FIRE!!! Until and unless it's necessary for your growth or you intend to join the FIRE BRIGADE!!!!
Similarly, our past failures and painful memories would be utilized by our mind to anticipate the same and induce a FEAR, this at times might block our potentials and reduce our risk taking ability.
FEAR can be handled in different ways:
1. First list down all the reasons, why would you want to face the Fear- let the list reflect the benefits that you would reap if you face this fear. It could be Fear of 'Expressing'!!! List the possible benefits of expressing - how would it change your Life, what benefits would you get etc. This would give you the energy and bring in strong purpose to take action and take calculated risks. Envisioning the outcome will push you to take Action!!!
2. Evaluate the possible dangers and list it down - this helps us take calculated risks. Use techniques like NLP/ Visualization/Individual Coaching/Self Hypnosis to make the benefits bigger than the problem.
3. Strategy - When you face the FEAR ensure that you have a proper strategy in place. You need to be sure of an existing strategy to break the fear!!! Motivation alone without a strategy may not work. Even though there is no guarantee of success, following these steps increases the probability of succeeding. Make sure you have technique/strategy to handle the challenge!
4. Sometimes the FEAR could be intense and could come from childhood unconscious patterns. These are normally deeply embedded in the subconscious and might require therapeutic intervention. People live with these fears and fail to take support of powerful therapeutic tools like Hypnotherapy, NLP etc to break these Fears. Tools like these definitely work on the subconscious mind to overcome these patterns which help us accelerate our growth in all areas of Life. People are reluctant to ask for help, but if you want 'Accelerated' growth in Life, learn to ask and there are infinite solutions available including online coaching, hypnotherapy, healing and other modalities.
Even a 'Baby Step' is 'Progress' until and unless it's in the right direction.
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